Tag Archives: Choices

The Joy of Celebrating

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I have always loved celebrations, but my greatest joy came when I learned to celebrate someone besides myself. This was not an easy feat for me. What I found when I truly started to self-reflect was that my selfishness and insecurities had me believing that when I celebrated others, I diminished my own self-worth. As I […]

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Breaking the Cycle of Low Self-Esteem

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  Throughout my entire childhood, I was surrounded and raised by women with low self-esteem. In fact, they had no idea of the meaning of it. My grandmother, who birthed 13 children and raised some of her grandchildren (including me most of the time) was one of the, She was content to allow my grandfather to bring home […]

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The Power in Networking

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  You have probably heard a thousand times (as have I) that your personal and professional success is as much about who you know as what you know. But although I had heard this over and over again, I didn’t really GET the message until I became the Director of two organizations within a large Federal agency […]

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Ten Quotes to Help Boost Your Self-Esteem

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   Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself.  However, there are so many things that affect those feelings. Negative childhood experiences, the demise of a valued relationship, or even the lost of a job can have an effect on how you are self-valued. No matter what the cause of how you […]

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Journey to Change

Last night while preparing material for some online training I will be presenting, I decided to look back on the past five years of my life. A part of the training I will be giving will require the participants to plan ahead for the next five years of their lives, but I decided to look back […]

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The Pain of Success

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  Believe it or not, pain can be the best thing to ever happen to you, especially on your climb to success. Pain and struggles force you to view yourself differently. It exposes your flaws…things about yourself that you might not like. Acknowledge that there are weaknesses, no matter how painful it may be, and […]

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Who is Surrounding You?

It is often said that you are the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time. I heard this saying so much that it led me to look at those who were surrounding me. What I found was that I mostly hung around those who needed me, who depended on me, who considered me to […]

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Learning to Let Go of Expectations

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The one thing that destroys relationships and rips friendships apart more than any other is expectations. Saying that others are not meeting our “needs” usually means that they are not living up to our expectations of them. We then try to seek out the reasons they are not meeting our expectations and project our often false perceptions on them […]

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When Your Life Doesn’t Match Your Hopes and Expectations

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When your life doesn’t match your expectations, it can be quite painful. Don’t try to minimize the pain by playing the blame game or pretending you don’t care. Instead identify whether you need to change your life, your expectations or both…then walk in your power and be more committed to taking action and less committed to complaining, […]

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Dealing With Body Discrimination

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Body discrimination or what some call “fat shaming” can start at a very early age. It is the belief of some researchers that children as young as three have already learned to pick out the “good” and the “bad” bodies and I know this to be true. Once, while eating out with a friend, I witnessed a little girl who appeared […]

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