Last night while preparing material for some online training I will be presenting, I decided to look back on the past five years of my life. A part of the training I will be giving will require the participants to plan ahead for the next five years of their lives, but I decided to look back on the last five years of mine.
I pulled three journals from my bookshelf that would detail most of my past five years. Reading those journals reminded me of so many different things, but most of all it showed me how much I had grown and changed.
What it also made me realize was how hard I still am on myself. Instead, I needed to be thankful and give myself credit for all the personal development I had done. I was reminded that while I still have so many things I need to work on, there is a tremendous amount of work that I have already done.
You, like me, are likely still a work in progress. I believe we all are. But still we need to give ourselves some love, a huge pat on the back, some kind of recognition for the work we have already done.
As I was reflecting on my current situation and where I am now in life, I started thinking about the things that I implemented and changed to get me where I am. While the things below will certainly not be all inclusive to the changes I have made, I will take the time to name a few.
1. Took responsibility for my life and my actions. I started to look at my situations, especially the bad, and acknowledge my part in them. I decided to be honest with myself about what I was doing and not doing and to acknowledge the affects that my actions, or lack thereof, had on others and myself.
2. Identified what I wanted to change. Initially self-reflection was not easy for me. I had spent most of my life looking into the lives of and helping others. I was not used to the process of self-examining and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Yet I knew that to make any progress I had to ask myself some very hard questions. What in my life needed to change. What behaviors I was displaying that was not conducive to me. And, what I was going to do differently.
3. Committed to what needed to be changed. I wrote everything down, formed an agreement with myself, and set timelines for implementing the changes. Some things were a lot harder for me to make adjustments and I didn’t always make the timeframes. However, when I read the pages of these journals and reflect back on where I was five years ago, I know and am so grateful that I have come a long, long way.
I am not sure where you are in life, but I am certain that it is not too late for you to make a new way. If you are not already doing so, I strongly suggest that you grab yourself some journals and start documenting your Journey to Change!