Category Archives: Ego

Breaking the Cycle of Low Self-Esteem

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  Throughout my entire childhood, I was surrounded and raised by women with low self-esteem. In fact, they had no idea of the meaning of it. My grandmother, who birthed 13 children and raised some of her grandchildren (including me most of the time) was one of the, She was content to allow my grandfather to bring home […]

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Expect the Unexpected

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  We all make plans, wish for things and have expectations of how someone will act or something will turn out. Unfortunately, things don’t always turn out the way we would like and people don’t always react the way we expected or sometimes even show up. There have been times where I have planned an event, expecting hundreds of people […]

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Dealing with Yourself

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“It is a lot easier to pick someone else a part than it is to put ourselves together.” It is a lot less painful to look outside of ourselves than it is to look within.” These are two statements that I heard on an empowerment call as a young lady was sharing her story. I lead discussions […]

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Learning to Let Go of Expectations

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The one thing that destroys relationships and rips friendships apart more than any other is expectations. Saying that others are not meeting our “needs” usually means that they are not living up to our expectations of them. We then try to seek out the reasons they are not meeting our expectations and project our often false perceptions on them […]

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Being Honest with Yourself

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One of my favorites quotes is “Integrity is telling myself the truth and honesty is telling the truth to others.”…Spencer Johnson This may sound very confusing, but for some there is very little that they hate more than being honest, especially when it comes to telling the truth about themselves. I can certainly relate with them. I was once one of […]

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Dealing With Body Discrimination

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Body discrimination or what some call “fat shaming” can start at a very early age. It is the belief of some researchers that children as young as three have already learned to pick out the “good” and the “bad” bodies and I know this to be true. Once, while eating out with a friend, I witnessed a little girl who appeared […]

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Trusting God in Moments of Uncertainty

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Are you a “born” worrier? I used to be or at least that is what I kept telling myself. “I can’t stop worrying. I was born that way!” The truth is, I was NOT born that way. So what happened? Life happened! At school I used to worry about getting bad grades and at home living up […]

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Taking Time to Breathe

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Many days for me used to be so frenzied that I felt like I was running fast to nowhere…so fast that I could hardly catch my breath. My to-do list ran off my desk and down the hallway. I was overtired, overcommitted and overwhelmed. There were days that I wanted to scream out loud and some days I did. Well, actually I […]

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Can Guilt be a Good Thing?

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Sometimes guilt is useful and healthy. Without it we would feel no remorse for hurting others or breaking laws. Because we want to avoid feeling remorseful, we are often more mindful of the way we treat others. However, should we somehow cause hurt to someone, either intentional or unintentional, guilt can motivate us to try […]

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Embracing Your Personal Power

 “You’ve got the power in your hand. You’ve got the power to make me understand,” are some of the lyrics to one of my favorite James Brown songs. A song I used to be caught singing to the top of my lungs when I was younger. Back then, the lyrics really meant nothing to me; just words […]

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